After 20 years of marriage, the author found herself blindsided and facing divorce. Dazed and confused, she stumbled in the dark trying to figure a way to survive. In sheer desperation and to make sure she didn’t do something she might regret later, she started a journal project that morphed into this book. Becoming Unmarried is an honest and unfettered, often funny account of a very unfunny time. From navigating the actual legal process to finding new ways to cope with being a “suddenly single” woman, the author takes you along on her emotional roller coaster ride and offers insights into dealing with the idiosyncrasies of divorce. Discover how to transform the relationships with the soon-to-be-ex’s family and friends, or let those connections go – gracefully. Becoming Unmarried is a testimony of hope, humor, empowerment – and moving forward into life beyond divorce.
The design of this book is based around the idea of getting a lover’s name removed/covered in tattoo form, bringing the actual pain of a breakup or spousal betrayal to life. The two lovely birds carrying a “Just Married” banner to celebrate a lifetime of joy between the tow of them, now harshly tattooed out with red ink and replaced with a piece of the title “Becoming Un” fitting in to the rest of the old tattoo “Married” and bringing the title to life. The author’s name at the bottom now corrected by yet another cover-up tattoo, more of an aggressive red redaction. The pain from the cover tattoos still red, swollen, and irritated, much like the entire experience the author went through. But much like this tattoo, it too will heal.
The back of the book has all of the information placed on a background of a paper towel, which is commonly used in a tattoo shop to clean up the mess and keep things sanitary, wiping away the excess ink spilled during and the pain seeping out through your skin as it is being placed within.